Re: happy wife syndrome

[Bill <Y1TopBanana73@xxxxxxxxx>]

I'll definitely second master Don's words. My wife has actually gotten
into cars since we met (we bought our 65 Coronet 'vert because she
wanted a drop top) and is always looking around on the internet for
cars for sale...but she REALLY likes bright, sparkley, shiny
stuff...really sparkley. I honestly can't really justify paying
thousands for clear rock or shiny bracelet (as I've paid less for
complete vehicles), but it's what she likes, so I do give in when she
finds something she really likes...in the interest of domestic
tranquility. And she puts up w/ my garage full of "crap" as she calls
it. It's all give and take and I've come to realize that I can't spend
every waking moment in the garage (although I'd like to!) playing w/
the cars...the honey-do list has to take a high priority position
sometimes too.

Bill M
65 Coronet 500 'vert

>  -----Original Message-----
>  From: Don Dulmage [mailto:big-d@xxxxxxxxxxxx]
>  Sent: Friday, March 21, 2008 8:38 AM
>  To: 1962to1965mopars@xxxxxxxxxx
>  Subject: happy wife syndrome
>
>
>
>  I ran onto one of the reasons why we get in trouble occasionally. Beside
>  being a car nut i also like music and hack around on a guitar and violins .
>  I make my own fiddles for fun. When giving a demo at a seniors or retiries
>  group i ran into a lady who picked up one of my homemade fiddles ad i could
>  tell a soon as she handled it she was a player and not a novice either. I
>  asked if she had  a violin to play. she said no. I knew her before this and
>  her husband is into cars. he has a real nice t-bird and a 1917 Model t
>  touring. . She told him se wanted to get a violin later that day and he said
>  , what the heck would you want that for?  Then she found one atthe
>  distressed frieght comapny  for $49 but he refused to let her have. Now  if
>  she hates his cars i didnt feel a bit sorry for him. He has disrespected her
>  interests and talents and deserves whatever he gets. Wives are totally
>  unimpressed by how much stuff is worth BTW so making a list and writing down
>  the figures is only going to give you a headache. They dont particularily
>  enjoy car shows and drags and cruise nights either but come along because
>  they want to do something together with you. so when they want to go
>  shoppping and you refuse to go, dont expect a warm feeling from her when you
>  want her to come to a car thing with you. They married you so they could
>  send time with you. Money , chrome valve cover , first hemi ever built or
>  one of 1 means to them absolutely nothing, in fact  it annoys them when you
>  try and con them into the fact that you do this because it is a good
>  investment and profitable. They dont really care . Some will go along , some
>  will occasionally but dont try to make your hobby and interests theirs.
>  instead make sure they get to do and see and go where they want to as well.
>  If you dont and your woman gets exasperated by your car stuff. it is hard in
>  anyway to feel sorry for you. I know there are some women who are into cars.
>  Cindy on this list is one i know myself and always has something interesting
>  to drive but most of our woman are not really if truth be known that
>  interested. . When we tell them how rare something is or how valuable it is
>  or how bad we want it  they are tempted to quote that line from the gone
>  with the Wind movie (Frankly Scarlet i dont give a da...m) To think
>  otherwise is foolishness.  Have all the car stuff you want but dont restict
>  your womans interests either. . Now Dennis from our list has a real god one
>  one women and men. I think he would send it to whoever wants it. i sure
>  liked it.
>
>  The Weather is better hear now and the insurance thing came for the 63. got
>  to get a  new appraisal. i hate that but have no choice. Ducked it last year
>  so I wont escape this year.
>  Don
>   My wife said I should tell you all how we repaired it in our marriage many
>  years ago, 30+
>  I had a 426 Hemi at the time. and was centred on making it good to the
>  exclusions of all other things so it seemed to her
>   One day in a bit of anger she said to me "how is it that if the hemi needs
>  somehing you have to get it but if i need something it never comes. Stunned
>  I said why? what would you want?  "Well some descent cupboards for starters"
>  she replied. We were in our second house at the time and it was not fancy to
>  say the least. " You want cupboards? I said. "git in the car". The home show
>  was on and so i drove right there and went to the cupboard display. .? What
>  wood do you like? I said. She showed me a dark oak set. , What hardware? I
>  asked  She picked stuff so nice i swallwed hard. By now the salesman was
>  there , How big is your kitchen. She already knew and told him exactly. He
>  drew a plan and aked a few questions.  "How much ?" I asked. He told me (i
>  think then it was 1965.00 dollars (1971, you could add a zero now i think))"
>  When can you put them in?" i asked. "They will be installed in the next 45
>  day"s "he said. "Ok"  I said and signed on te line. On the way home she
>  asked me, " how will we pay for them?" "We'll manage" i said because i had
>  no intention of spending the rest of our days in trouble. And we did manage
>  too. In fact it was no problem. and the friction disappeared. I said
>  DISAPPEARED fellows. I thought about it long and hard and finally realized I
>  am not the only one on this planet or in this house . Her intersts are not
>  mine and mine are not hers but if her interests are satisified she will not
>  give me any flack about mine and so some 37 years later that is how it is. I
>  make sure she gets to do and see what she wants and will go with her when
>  practical. or when she asks and she makes sure my interests are fed as well.
>  This works. If you should kid yourself thinking that she is really
>  interested in this car thing too, she just needs encouregment you are lying
>  to the guy you see every morning in the mirror when you shave.
>  Thus endeth the sermon for the day i will go back in the garage now and try
>  and behave. (right after i fix the dimmer switch knobs for her inthe living
>  room. )
>  Don
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